I have been reading about Positive Thinking, Auto-Suggestions and Toxic Speaking for a long time now! Wanted to give my thought here so that it can benefit you.
Positive Thinking is not just about mental tuning of a person. It would have been told to you by your mother, father or grandma many-a-times. Whenever we were in trouble and mourned to our parents, they would have told us to think positive. But we have kept ignoring them. "Think Positive" is not just an advice given by old-age people. It is a science!
Psycologist and people who treat patients though 'mental healing' say that brain cannot process negative statements. It simply ignores the negative connotation used in your command and does consider the remaining part of your statement.
You still dont believe it? Fine! Let me ask you to stop reading the remaining for a while and just concentrate on this question. "Dont think of a Blue Elephant". Read it again now ... "Dont think of a Blue Elephant". Now tell me one thing. Did your mind pictured an elephant blue in color? Shiv Kera in 'You can Win" told this example. Though you said to your brain "Dont think of a Blue Elephant", your mind picutured a blue elephant. Now do you believe in what I say?
Tuning your Child through positve statements!
If to a child you say "Dont drop the glass", it immediately drops it. It is not that the child wants to irritate you [or] is trying to be mischievious. It is the way brain responds to negative statements! Instead you tell the same child "Hold the glass", it will hold it for sure.
A story which I read should be another good example for "Toxic Speak"! Two children were on the top of a small tree. When their parents observed strong wind blowing, they frenzied to ask their kids to be careful. One shouted "Hold the tree firmly" and the other screamed "Dont fall down". You now know what would have happened :-)
Speak positve to your kids! Remove words like 'not', 'dont', 'but', 'try', "might', 'could' et al as much as possible. You can speak these words to mentally sound people but, to kids whom you want to tune better, speak positive!
People who are addicted to smoking/drinking also should practice to stop them using positive statements. If they keep telling to them "I should not smoke today", they will eventually smoke. Rather they should think about how good it is to breathe fresh air. Institutes which train people to come out of addictions, talk about benefits of being good. They never talk about "NOT" doing the bad!
As part of our high-school we would have studied about brain. We had to write about 'Cerebrum', 'Cerebellum' and 'Medula Oblongata' to get our marks. Knowing them is no more helpful to many of us except doctors. Lets know that "Brain Cannot process negative statements" to score good in our life!
"Euphemism" is the art of expressing unpleasant things in a pleasant way. Practice it. Its good and will bring lots of friends to your life. By talking and thinking positive your brain will be your good friend too!